What All Teenagers Should Know About Sex and Relationships

     It has been a trend among teenagers that they yield to their hormones and become involved in sex and relationships, even before they really understand the real workings of their own bodies. Ask many female teens about progesterone and they wouldn’t have a clue what that is. Turn the tables on the males and ask them about testosterone, and the average youth knows nothing about that either. Both genders can tell what it feels like to be under the influence of these endocrinal bodily functions, without being able to put a face on the root of the evil. They know that a boy has a penis and a girl, a vagina, and when there is an itch, one scratches the other. And that’s it! They can’t go any deeper into say, how sperm is produced, prostate and Cowper’s glands, or, the ovaries and fallopian tubes as they relate to the reproductive system.  Being ignorant and vulnerable is one of the foremost reasons why many teenagers find themselves in difficulties posed by sex and relationships. As soon as puberty steps in, the next step for uniformed teens is to prove that they have arrived, and negligible effort is invested in discovering how to handle the demands of sex and relationships. The following paragraphs are composed to get young people to understand what they are bargaining for, when they start off their adolescent life with sex and relationships.

     Sex Fact Sheet

     Sex is one of the greatest gifts to humans. Of the animal kingdom, mankind seems to be the only member that uses it for both procreation and pleasure. However, sex is also like a double-edged sword. It makes and also breaks even the best of the human species. The problem is that many people would probably admit that they only learn about the dangers of sex while they have already been immersed in its addiction. If that’s the case, why can’t adults seem to get the message across to their offspring before the youngsters follow in these forefathers’ footsteps? Perhaps because people are behaving like instinctive animals, hence, they are treated in like manner. Contrary to popular demand, sex cannot be trivialized. It is a very powerful instrument and the more people toy with it, the more they are plunged into greater desecration of humanity. Teenagers need to know that if their superiors found it difficult to descramble, these impressionable ones need to proceed with caution. As a matter of fact, not many parents can safely say that they had planned for their kids’ entry into the world. Many pregnancies happen by accident while partners let themselves go with sex.

     Sex commands responsibility. From as early as age twelve, people can become parents, some even younger. Parenting demands skills to convey correct upbringing. And at that tender age, what the hell does one know about passing on values, when he or she doesn’t even know the meaning of the word? In most modern societies, twelve is the age when youngsters are involved with their secondary education, trying to establish a firm foundation for life. Sex and secondary school are like oil and water; they don’t mix. As soon as a secondary kid becomes sexually active, a vigilant teacher picks it up on a monitor. There are physical and mental changes in that child’s demeanor and attitude beyond his or her control. It’s like a bitch that has been initiated by a bulldog. Once she is back, her body seems to adjust to show that she is no longer innocent.

     A sexually active teen hardly ever has the humility of an innocent learner. As a result, he or she tends to be in a confrontation mood with a teacher in a classroom. If it’s a female teen, she has the proclivity to compete with an older female instructor, as if to send a clear message that that mentor has nothing over her when it comes to womanhood. After all, sex is the apex of human self-idolatry, and when that standard is achieved, her power is proven. At least, that’s the inherent belief in the way ordinary people view the pleasurable satisfaction of sex. If the sexually active female teen is dealing with a male mentor, especially if it’s someone sexually attractive, she gets her feelings intertwined. Immediately, it’s as if she mistakes him for her male sex companions, even more so if she is playing with adults.

     A sexually active male teen is predisposed to carry out even more vicious attacks on male mentors, perhaps because males in the animal kingdom fight other males to be the king of the ring. The teen is like a young rooster, which, after its first copulating experience, puts up a daily challenge to earn some respect from his elders, as its comb (the red fleshy part on its head) gets more exposed. The young cock might have to run in its first few trials and errors, but later he stands a good chance to rule the roost. That might be the reason teenage boys spend a lot of time fighting among their peers and ‘jumping’ older males, hence, finding it difficult to concentrate on scholastic work in their adolescent years.

     If the sexually active male teen is dealing with a female mentor, there is a different kind of distracting reaction. He tries to gain attention by being provocative to show that she is no different from the other females who are enriching his exploits and conquests. The power of sex clouds his vision so he doesn’t know how to apply a sense of decorum. In a class situation, while the female teacher is doing an adult obligation, striking a balance between work and play, he is more like a puppy ready to lick her mouth right there, if she gives him the chance. He is out to prove that her job is to teach, and although she might see him as a boy, he’s so sure that he is capable of handling a man’s job.

Relationships Arousal

     It hurts many parents to hear their teen kids say that they are ready to marry the love of their life, knowing that these inexperienced adolescents are just responding to the heat of the moment by succumbing to their passion. At fourteen, some kids think they have found love, want babies, and are ready to even give up their immediate families to start their own. As adults who have been under the weather with relationships, some people wonder, “What could really be at work in the minds of these scarcely-out-of-diapers drunkards to give them those feelings?” Teen lovers are driven by emotions and infatuations, and tend to believe that things are going to be the same even in adulthood. What they don’t know is that people change, both physically and mentally as they time advances. Nowadays, there is no guarantee that two mature lovers can spend the rest of their lives together, much less two teens who are still to make obvious changes in the short run.

     Most teens based their love for each other on physical attraction, but let’s just say that there are few wise ones who also look deeper than at superficial beauty. The first principle that holds for adults also does the same for adolescents: partners can only speak for themselves individualistically when it comes to changing according to circumstances. In other words, a boy can say he will never change, and puts his neck on the block to stand by his word. However, even when his girlfriend promises fidelity to her grave, that word might not speak for a case where, a couple years down the road, her parents might send her off to college, and while living in dorms, she might meet more attractive guys. Since she is living far away for semesters at a time, the devil might find work for her idle hands. There are so many different circumstances that can arise, between ages twelve and early to mid-twenties that it is ridiculous to hear teens speak of settling down after experiencing their first taste of relationship.

     That’s not to say that some high school sweethearts don’t follow through with their commitments. However, of the low percentage of partnerships that survives the sentence, a checklist can be used to identify the difficulties that these couples face in their later years: infidelity, stagnation, going through the motions, the need for spicing up, no attraction, falling out of love, and the list becomes extensive. A teenager needs to know that the slim and sexy lover to whom he’s attracted might not have that shapely figure at age twenty-three. One of the main realities that can shock young lovebirds is when a baby comes in the picture. The young mother might gain a few pounds and her once displayable ‘belly button’ might now be surrounded by stretch marks, triggering abusive language to flourish in the relationship.

     But these above currents are but a few that rock the boats that transport today’s relationships. Teenagers need to know that love is not the only ingredient that maintains two people in partnership. Stability depends on money, jobs, family members (parents), sometimes religion, kids and a host of other storms that life belches out from time to time. The wise kid seeks to set a firm foundation first, while getting the necessary knowledge about relationships, people, and other facts of life before thinking to get serious with somebody of his or her choice. Stepping forth this way could drastically reduce the number of unwanted kids, high divorce rate, and dysfunctional families on our planet.